Saturday, July 23, 2011

Merchant of Venice

Merchant of Venice

In your opinion, is money important in relationships? Consider the "transactional" element observed in the relationships between the couples. Do you think there is an upward trend of relationships and marriages valuing money over other qualities?

In my opinion, I feel that money is not important in relationships, to a certain extent. In today’s materialistic world, one has to agree that people choose their partners because of their wealth. If a person enters a relationship with another person just because he/she is wealthy, but the first person has never developed any form of affection for him/her, the person will feel happy as he leads a comfortable lifestyle. However, does he really feel happy? I feel that one only feels happy if he/she loves his/her partner in their relationship and I think what matters in relationships is the true love between the two partners. When one enters a relationship with another person whom he/she truly loves, they will be willing to conquer all odds to be together, and to live happily ever after, just like a fairytale.

Personally, I think that there is an upward trend of relationships and marriages valuing money over other qualities, as I feel that in today’s society, money has been placed the basic of all needs and without money, one cannot even do a single thing. Almost everything costs money nowadays, so when people find life partners, they will find one that has wealth so that he/she can lessen the work stress that he/she develops while trying hard to earn money to make a living.

7 comments:

  1. Dear HuangYan,

    I am Jia Neng. I agree with you that money is not important in relationships. Nowadays, materalistic people marry for the sake of money. This kind of marriage do not last long and there would not be any true happiness. If there is no true love, what is the point of living a lavish lifestyle? There is absolutely no point. Even though money is not that important in a relationship, money is still required for daily needs. However, true love should be the first priority.

    Thank you,
    Ng Jia Neng :):):):):):)
    http://literatureviewed.blogspot.com

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  2. Dear Huang Yan,

    I am Jerome. I agree with you that money is not important in relationships. Only love in relationships will let both parties have true happiness. Just having money alone will make your life miserable.

    But I personally feel that there is a downward trend in people marrying for money. Even though in the modern world everything costs money, people are getting more educated and can easily earn lots of money as they have good jobs. So they will tend to focus more on love because that is what they are lacking in.

    Overall ok blog prompt but the fonts of the words must be readible.

    Please comment on my blog too!:) (http://the-world-of-volkswagen.blogspot.com/)

    Thanks.

    Regards,
    Jerome

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  3. But then think of this: there are two people whom “one” loves equally, one of them is rich while the other is poor. Both of them love “one” equally too. Who do you think would “one” choose? The most direct and intuitive answer would, usually, be the rich one. Therefore, we can see that while true love is definitely important, money is a crucial factor too. Of course, we would think that such a scenario is rare. However, the importance of money is supported by your claim that “money has been placed the basic……single thing.”One is betting one’s survival and remaining life in a relationship. Many qualities must be carefully considered, money not being the least. How would one feel if one’s spouse were to be impoverished to the state of utter disgrace that one is forced to beg money from others? Money is the one of the most fundamental and indispensable things in a relationship, be it in the past and the present, and will be the same too, I believe, in the future. Wealth and possession is something which can never be avoided in a relationship. Otherwise, child marriage could be legalized since money is not important as long as there is true love. That’s one of the reason why couples are only allowed to even officially be in a relationship after they have reached a certain age because without money, how are the couples going to lead a life separated from their respective parents or guardians?

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  4. Hi I am Sebastian. Huangyan, you may have provided good explanation of love and money but it is not enough. As what Ms Tay said, you need to include real life examples and also relate back to Merchant of Venice. If you want to have a good argument, you have to go beyond just explaining. You will need strong evidences to support your explanation. There are certainly countries in this world whereby they still have norm and arranged and forced marriage. Arranged and forced marriage are most prominent in Middle East countries. For forced marriage, parents would force their child to marry someone who are mostly rich and of high status. There are instances where children are forced to marry older people who are rich. In this cases, parents value money more than child's love. Whereas, arranged marriage is just to help people find a marrying partner. The person have the rights to choose whether to marry.

    Jiayi:
    I disagree with your point. I do not feel that it is possible for someone to love two person equally. I believe in true love(maybe you don't). You can have a few relationship in your life but in the end there is only one person that you are going to spend your life with.

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  5. Huang Yan, I think your post lacks evidence and examples and your explanation isn't sufficient. For example, you can provide examples of couples that have married because of money and the unhappy ending they received. Also, I think money isn't totally trash in a relationship. I think it depends on different factors like whether their life would be hard if they marry, ability to raise a child, amount of time they can manage to spend together without working mindlessly to earn some money. How about people that force other people to marry themselves by abusing their wealth and power?

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  6. Sorry i actually agree with you that there is an upward trend in marriages for money. I was only considering the trend in Singapore's context which is not good. In other parts of the world, like India and Afganistan, there are many forced marriages by family members as they want money. The other party may also force the other party to marry him as he is rich and everyone will agree to that. Singapore alone is not a good data analysis.

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  7. Hi, I am Xingzhu. I agree with you that money is only a small factor of relationship. Only when 2 parties truly love each other, then there will be a happy ending for them. I also agree with your point that there is an upward trend in marriage for money. People nowadays are more materialistic and they feel that money is a crucial need to them. In many countries in the Middle East, women are forced to marry someone that is rich and the parents will usually receive a large sum of money.

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